My BFRB Won't Stop Me: My BFRB.org Story & Their Role in My Trichotillomania Recovery

It's week 4 of Our Month of Gratitude, here's why I’m grateful for TLC Foundation for BFRBs.

TLC has been there for me in so many ways, and I know they will be there for you.

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For most of my life I let my BFRB stop me.

BFRB stands for Body Focused Repetitive Behavior. BFRB is the umbrella term for a group of psychological disorders that stem from stress and anxiety. These disorders include hair pulling (trichotillomania), skin picking (dermatillomania), nail biting (onychophagia), cheek biting, nose picking and a host of other behaviors in which the hand repeats an action on the body without the person having full control over the movement. In short these are subconscious movements with detrimental results. Think bald patches, skin lesions, bloody cuticles, infections and more.

What do these physical manifestations do to a person with BFRBs? Well, quite simply, make us feel like sh*t. How do I know this? Because for 20+ years I have suffered from trichotillomania, pulling out the hair from my eyebrows and eyelashes, and feeling oh so inferior because of it.

According to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (2009), “BFRBs are among the most poorly understood, misdiagnosed, and undertreated groups of disorders.”

This is despite the fact that 1 in 25 Americans is affected by a BFRB!

How can it be that even though SO MANY people have a BFRB (nearly 30 Million in the US) it’s not widely known?

One word. SHAME.

And it’s a damn shame. A damn shame that we who pull, pick, or bite, feel so guilty for doing this to ourselves.

It is not a choice.
We are chosen.

But the truth is: IT IS NOT A CHOICE. In the same way no one chooses to get diabetes or parkinson’s disease, I have not consciously chosen to pull out my hair. It is something that happens at a subconscious level as a soothing, or coping, mechanism. It’s my “fight or flight” system gone awry.

Because there is a perception that we are doing it to ourselves, we are judged for it. To protect ourselves, people in the BFRB community do so in silence, in hiding, in defeat. We let our BFRB make choices for us, stopping us from what we really want to do.

For most of my life, I let my BFRB stop me.

But no more. 

Today, I give thanks to TLC BFRB for their role in my trichotillomania treatment and getting me to a point where I can boldly declare, my BFRB won’t stop me..

TLC Told Me I Have Trichotillomania

I started pulling my hair as a tween. In an elementary school science class, we were taught about microorganisms living in our eyebrows and eyelashes. I can still picture the video in my mind’s eye. It grossed me out and made me self-conscious of the area. Around the same time, my family moved to a new town. I felt out of place and the kids constantly reminded me of it. They felt I wasn’t good enough and, as a child, I began to believe it too. A few years later, my dad got sick with cancer and wham!, hair pulling became my number one coping skill.

It wasn’t until my late twenties, sitting in my office one day, staring into a bright blue sky with just a few white fluffy clouds & crying because I had spent the morning pulling out lashes right there at my desk. I was going through a hard time. A quarter-life crisis, coupled with a heartbreak.

I Googled, “why do I pull out my hair?” And I found links to TLC Foundation for Body Focused Repetitive Behaviors (Formerly known as the Trichotillomania Learning Center), one of the only American non-profits dedicated to the BFRB community.

TLC Was My Help For Trichotillomania

That day, sitting in the empty office, I clicked the TLC link and found an immediate comfort in finally learning that I WAS NOT ALONE, as well as learning that this “thing" I was doing to myself was actually a mental health disorder & not really me!

TLC BFRB defined my condition and explained it as well, helping me find the answer to my blazing question, “What is trichotillomania?” (Actually, it was more like, “Trichotilillomania? What the &%#$% is trichotillomania!?”

Then I Googled “how do I stop trichotillomania?” and again was directed to TLC.

Though I found comfort in finally knowing, I continued to hide my eyelash pulling from everyone close to me with makeup and fake smiles. I just didn’t think others would understand. Over the next few years my eyelash pulling ebbed and flowed, matching my states of stress and anxiety.

And over those next few years, I tried solutions for my constant hair pulling that I found through TLC’s website.

Trying Psychological Treatment For Trichotillomania

HabitAware cofounder, Aneela. A long time ago, after a bad pull session.

HabitAware cofounder, Aneela. A long time ago, after a bad pull session.

TLC is a huge proponent for therapy, and educates treatment professionals interested in helping people with BFRBs. Because of TLC’s advocacy for psychological treatment, I decided to see a therapist shortly after I learned of my condition.

But the therapist I chose was not one of those who had been trained by TLC.

“Why don’t you just stop pulling out your hair?” she asked.

“Wow! Why didn’t I think of that?! Just stop hair pulling! Duh! Thanks, I’m cured! Not.”

UGH. Sigh.

The lack of understanding from someone who was supposed to "cure" me made me give up on therapy as an option, at least for a while.

Pills and Hypnosis: Two Ways to Stop Pulling Hair, Maybe? 

One member of TLC’s Scientific Advisory Board, Dr. John Grant, conducted research about an amino acid, showing that it had some success in reducing BFRB-urges. So, I tried it. I personally wasn’t able to notice a difference, but because everyone’s body chemistry and BFRB are different, I wouldn’t discount it as an option!

I also tried hypnotherapy. My boss at the time was using hypnosis try to quit smoking. I thought maybe it could work for “hair plucking,” as the hypnotist wrote on the intake form.

That should have been a sign. I lied to my boss and made up an excuse to get the hypnotist’s contact information. I saved up and paid cash for each of my four appointments, because I still felt like I needed to hide that I was getting help in this way.

That lack of confidence should have been enough to tell me what those $800 were going to get me: NOTHING. Well, actually I did get something: more hair in my hands.

Looking back I realize I wasn’t in the right state of mind for it to work. I was too stressed to be hypnotized. My mind was never quiet enough and had its own internal dialogue, second-guessing the efficacy of hypnosis while actually trying to get hypnotized!

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Life happened and I got in a groove of pulling and being best friends with a black eyeliner pencil.

Throughout all of this, the TLC team was there with me, even though they didn’t know it. I subscribe to their emails and received their monthly letter. I learned more about body focused repetitive behaviors, their relationship to other mental health issues like depression, anxiety and OCD, and all their research work.

From Hiding Hair Pulling to Sharing My Secret

A few years ago, as I was getting ready for work, I wasn’t fast enough. My husband, Sameer, saw me before I got my eyeliner on. And he looked at me and said “Whoa!? What’s going on with your eyebrows?”

My eyes went wide like a deer in headlights. And I said, “Uh. You caught me.” I went silent for what seemed like hours, because I had no idea what to say. “Oh, I pull out my hair,” just didn’t seem like the right response to his question.

Luckily I had found resources on TLC’s website for loved ones. I finally came clean and over the next few weeks I opened up to Sameer and he did his own research on, ta-da, the TLC website!

He encouraged me to see a treatment professional. So I tried again, this time using TLC’s Listing of Trained Treatment Professionals to see someone well-versed in trichotillomania. I found therapy to be really helping for treating trichotillomania, as well as my other “baggage.”

TLC also has a listing of local support groups and I joined the one where I live. Those personal connections were the start to building my BFRB community and starting on the path to recovery for trichotillomania.

One evening, as we sat on the couch watching tv, me pulling away subconsciously, Sameer’s hand slowly took mine. And I turned to him and said, “I wish I just had something that notified me...that wasn't you.”

We couldn’t find anything like it online, so we brainstormed ways to build it.

TLC's Inadvertent Role in Creating our Awareness Bracelet For Trichotillomania

Through TLC’s website, Sameer & I connected with experts in field. All the TLC Scientific Advisory Board doctors we spoke with, from Dr. Penzel to Dr. Reinardy, were generous with their time and knowledge.

We found we even had a local connection! Dr. Novak, a founding member of TLC’s Scientific Advisory Board, was excited about our idea and joined The HabitAware Professional Advisory Board.

Building the Keen Smart Bracelet and How Keen Works

 
The first step to changing behavior is being ready to change. But, you can't change what you don't know. This is where Keen can help!

The first step to changing behavior is being ready to change. But, you can't change what you don't know. This is where Keen can help!

 

We continued to develop our smart bracelet with our friends, John & Kirk, ultimately naming it Keen because the goal of our habit tracker bracelet is to help develop “keen” awareness of where your hands are.

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When this silly-looking prototype worked for me, we were so motivated to make it better – and real – for others! Keen works by comparing the trained gesture to actual hand movements and delivering a vibration when it senses a mathematical match. This vibration is like a wake-up call, helping shift the behavior from the subconscious to the conscious mind so you can affect positive change in your life.

We tested revised prototypes with friends from the support group I found through TLC and friends in our Minneapolis tech and advertising community, who confided interest in our smart bracelet to help them with their hair pulling, nail biting or skin picking. We set them up with an app that connected to the bracelet and they trained it for their specific hand gesture.

It was the first thing ever to actually help me take control of my hair pulling, even cooler, it began to work for our small crew of testers!

Our first TLC Conference!

But, we needed more than our friends to give the OK. We needed the help and input of the TLC community. So we went to TLC and asked them if we could attend their conference. We were welcomed with open arms & excitement as we showed initial prototypes to conference attendees. There was so much love and support, and I knew my family grew that weekend.

This “Inner Circle” followed us on our journey to China (link to HAX blog post) to participate in HAX Hardware Accelerator program and gave our team input on features, colors and more as we continued our development. Some were also able to beta test with us and they were the first to receive their Keens when we began shipping in March.

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Professionally, Keen by HabitAware would not exist if not for the TLC Board Members who initially coached us AND the TLC community who expressed excitement and interest. This community is the reason we gave up our day jobs to push Keen forward.

Personally, TLC has been a huge part of my recovery and I am forever grateful. It is why HabitAware gives thanks and gives back. We strive to host and participate in events that allow us to raise donations and awareness of BFRBs:

Just as the BFRB community supported us in our official launch of Keen this March, we will continue to support the TLC BFRB organization in their efforts to teach, support and fundraise for us.

Without TLC BFRB we would all still be so very alone.

My BFRB no longer stops me and with TLC Foundation for BFRBs by your side, I guarantee that your BFRB can’t stop you either.

Thank you TLC for filling my world with strength and hope.

with love & awareness,

Aneela

Keen by HabitAware at Target Open House

The HabitAware team is super excited for our “no pull” bracelet, Keen, to be part of Target's Open House!

About Target’s smart house


From their website, Target Open House shares: "Consider it your home for possibilities, built to show you just how to bring them to life. Open House is located in America’s tech hub of San Francisco. It is a place to experiment with and purchase products, learn about possibilities and connect with creators. In the evening, Open House turns into an event space, hosting discussions, presentations and collaborations."

HabitAware in the "house"

Beginning November 16th, 2017, Keen by HabitAware will be showcased in the “Garage” area of Target Open House, as one of fifteen hand-picked, new and inventive products. 

The Keen smart bracelet by HabitAware helps you or your child manage subconscious compulsive behaviors by knowing when you are doing them and bringing you into awareness so you can take control. Keen has already helped thousands of people worldwide, and we are ecstatic to partner with Target to share Keen with thousands more.

Bay Area friends, come check Keen out in person at Target Open House, 115 4th Street, San Francisco, CA through December 14th, 2017. 

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Meet Aneela at Target Open House

On December 12th, from 10:30am - 1:30pm PT, I'll be at Target Open House for a "Spotlight" Event. If you live in the San Francisco / Bay Area, please sign up for an Eventbrite ticket, or just swing by. I'd love to meet you in person to get your feedback, help you get set up for success, or have a mini bfrb support session!  

About Keen by HabitAware

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Guest Blog: Faith, Awareness and Trichotillomania Recovery

For Week 3 of our “Month of Gratitude,” we are talking about how you gotta have FAITH!

I am a firm believer in believing. It's not about religion. It's about cultivating trust and confidence. It's about allowing yourself to "hand off" your dreams, wishes and worries to a "something." That "something" can be Jesus, Allah, Lakshmi, Buddha, HaShem, the Universe, Sigmund, your inner being, or a tree in your backyard.

What I'm saying is, what you put your faith in can be ANYTHING.

For me, it’s a mix of all those listed above, and my dad.

Today's guest post comes to you from Keen family member, Lesley Stevens.  For you @HabitAware Instagram fans, Lesley may look familiar as she took over our Instagram account during #BFRBAwarenessWeek.

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Lesley’s back to share how faith and staying positive have played a role in her trichotillomania recovery and to share how YOU in our Keen family can build faith and positivity.

I have faith that her openness, honesty and suggestions can help you, as they have me!

with love❤️, strength💪, awareness 👀 (& faith💫!),

Aneela & the HabitAware team

 

Incorporating Keen and Faith into My Trichotillomania Treatment

by: Lesley Stevens, trichster + blogger

This has been one of the hardest years for me.

I have been clinging to the good things in my life a little more tightly in these harder times – and there’s certainly a lot of good to be grateful for.

This year I have lost a lot financially in my business, at no fault of my own. It’s just the way business swings sometimes, but still, rough no doubt.

I am the sole provider for my family of six and my businesses are our source of income. I run an online “shop” with the best gifts for kids. I chose to start this business a few years ago as a way to connect with my kids, learn digital marketing and provide for my family.  

I am also currently attending Bible college to earn my Associates Degree in Theology. Through my studies I’ve gotten more in sync with the power of faith.

When things start looking down, the way they have this year, I know I have to walk by faith each day. There is no manual to success. Running a business takes trial and error and a lot of faith – a lot!

I’ve had trichotillomania since I was really little and it’s definitely triggered by my circumstances - and stress - around me. Earlier this year I saw things we’re getting worse financially, and I noticed the same for my trichotillomania.

I decided I needed to start saying out loud that I would overcome it because it really was getting out of hand with all the pressures building up around me. I started speaking out what I wanted to see happen.

Using Facebook Groups as a Treatment for Trichotillomania

I began writing about my journey on my blog and I started joining Facebook groups in search of community, positive people and answers to help me overcome.

It can be a high anxiety scene at first in some of these support groups but there’s a lot of good, positive feedback to be read. I know I am there for information to help me overcome this, and I always keep that mindset when I’m in these groups because you can read depressing things sometimes.

To combat that, I also created my own Facebook group to encourage others and I kept confessing that I would overcome trichotillomania:

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What’s been awesome about keeping the “faith-filled overcoming” approach is that I have seen change happen in all areas of my life...

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...and am especially thankful for the HUGE progress this year over my Trich, despite my circumstances.

Keen by HabitAware has been a Godsend in my life because I wasn’t aware when I was pulling. I would pull out my hair and not even know watching tv or laying in bed.

Once I found Keen, it was like a light went on upstairs for me. The bracelets are rad because they just buzz me lightly so I realize what I’m doing.

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I thought I had to have the Keen bracelets to be aware, but after 3 months of wearing them, my brain has made the connection without the bracelets...It really was awesome because it wasn’t just my hair, I just felt a heightened awareness of where my hands were and a really huge burst of confidence.”
— Lesley Stevens, trichotillomaniablog.com

Loosening trich’s hold on my life, led to other great pursuits. I know when I am pulling now and I could start working on something I had on my heart for awhile, which was a Trich Therapy Journal. I wanted to create this journal so I would have faith-filled inspiration and something to help me track my pulling. I didn’t want to be focused on the Trich, so the journal itself needed to keep me focused on Something Greater while I tracked the trich behaviors.

I really felt deep down that I needed to pinpoint what exactly the situations were so I could redirect myself, so I made this journal and began using it myself.

For the past 3 months, I have been wearing my Keen bracelets and writing down daily things that I do in this journal and my recovery has really come a long ways.

I’ve managed to really minimize my pulling in a drastic way that even my hairdresser noticed the last time I was there!

How Faith Can Help Stop Hair Pulling

My advice to others who are dealing with the same body focused repetitive behaviors (BFRBs) I am - trichotillomania, dermatillomania, compulsive nail biting and even thumb-sucking:

Start changing what you SAY about your situation first

That’s really a big step of faith when you think about it too.

By faith, start confessing that you will overcome whatever it is you’re battling.

I didn’t need to know how I was going to overcome, I just started changing my words and as my words changed so did my attitude about the situation.

When my attitude changed – opportunities and ideas started popping up all over.

I began attracting like-minded trichsters and finding resources like Keen to help me.

This year, although it’s been a tough one – it’s been a rewarding one in terms of my recovery, and for that I’m so very thankful, more than my words here can express.


About Lesley Stevens

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My name is Lesley and I’m the author over at TrichotillomaniaBlog.com where I talk about my journey to overcoming Trich.  I started blogging about Trich in early 2017 because I wanted to connect with others like me, spread awareness and share my walk of faith in overcoming it. You can grab a copy of the Trichotillomania Therapy Journal I created if you would like a faith-based approach to tracking your pulling patterns too.


About Keen by HabitAware

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Guest Blog: Music + Keen are My Treatment for Trichotillomania

Thankful for the healing power of music.

Music has been scientifically proven to heal “time after time.” (If you get my 80s music reference please post in the comments!) It can be a great treatment for trichotillomania, especially if combined with other tactics.

Today, Keen family member, Katie Lee shares how her passion for music – both creating it and consuming it – have helped her heal on her journey with trichotillomania.

See how others have used Keen to curb their trichotillomania

As you read her story, please let us know in the comments what you are grateful for that has had healing power in your life – is it art?! Is it writing?! Is it playing basketball?! Is it video games?!

You may help someone else find their way to healing.

with gratitude,

Aneela

Now, I’ll pass the mic to Katie:

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Hi! I’m Katie Lee. I’m a singer/songwriter, a teacher, a faith driven person, a lover of people and I also have Trich. It’s something I’ve dealt almost my entire life. There have been waves where it’s been really bad (almost no hair on the top of my head) and a few times when it wasn’t so bad, but through it all I’ve tried really hard to not let it define who I am. I am more than my hair.

Up until this last few months, I didn’t feel like I was ever going to overcome my hair pulling and it was hard to talk about. I knew that I had the ability to change it, but nothing I ever tried made any difference. Luckily, I felt prompted to do some online research (bfrb.org is a great source) and found the Keen bracelet and thought I would give it a try. It was just the jumpstart that I needed and that coupled with some online therapy, I’ve gone 37 days without pulling (which is seriously a miracle and I don’t use that word lightly).

Trich is something we have, NOT who we are!
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One thing that’s really helped through it all is music. Music has an amazing power to change your mood, provide healing and connect in a way that nothing else can. As a songwriter, I write about everything I feel and that’s been like therapy for me. Here’s some songs that have been a part of my process of healing:

I wrote a song a few years ago called Addicted to You. Trich felt so much like an addiction and I wanted so bad to be rid of it, but I also had a hard time letting go. Its something only someone with Trich can understand.

Then, last year I wrote a song, Fearlessly, Honestly Me, about how I sometimes let these insecurities about myself diminish who I am, especially in social settings. This song was like a pep talk to myself. I really do love who I am and I want to be fearlessly, honestly me in every situation. I’m pretty darn great and I want people to see that, regardless of how much hair is on my head.

Wonderful Ride came out of reflecting on many aspects of my life. I feel like we all try so hard to make our lives fit an imaginary standard that the world sets up and life rarely works out that way. But through all of that, I’m very grateful that my life has turned out the way it has. The struggles have given me strength and a much stronger sense of self that I would not have had otherwise.

While I've found healing through writing lyrics and singing, I also find others' music to be medicine. Here’s a few other songs that really help put things into perspective and turn around my day:

"You Will Be Found" from the Musical, Dear Evan Hansen

"Rise Up" by Andra Day

"Shorty Don't Wait" by A Great Big World

"Gold" by Britt Nicole

"30,000 Feet" by Ben Rector

"I lived" - One Republic

If you need more music recommendations or want to connect with me on social media, you can find me on Instagram @ ktleeitsme.

Musically,

Katie

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Learning to Self-Care and Self-Love Yourself First

For many of us, the never-ending cycle of the rat race leaves us physically and emotionally exhausted. The world we live in today is filled with so much to do. It is so busy and the "fomo" (fear of missing out) is just too great. We drain ourselves, and GO, GO, GO without stopping to notice that we have forgotten to fill ourselves back up. That's where self-care and self-love come in.

But, there is a misconception that self-care and self-love are selfish. NOT true! How can you be good to others, if you are not good to yourself! You owe it to yourself to take care of yourself and to love yourself. 

What is the difference between self-care and self-love?

 

Self-care: the actions that we take to take care of ourselves physically and spiritually.

Self-love: the actions that we take to take care of our emotional well-being.

 

Neither self-care nor self-love should have a negative connotation; it is not selfish to place a priority on our physical and mental health. Both are necessary to achieve a happy and well-balanced life. But, what's the difference? Well,:

Self-care is "taking the time to genuinely take care of ourselves (nourishing our bodies, moving our bodies, taking a nap, getting a mani/pedi, shopping, etc.)."

Self-love is "TRULY and genuinely accepting and loving who you are. Loving your entire self – regardless of your income, relationship status, where you live, your weight, number of followers, etc. It’s a deep love and appreciation for yourself from the inside. Not based on anything exterior from yourself."

And of course the two are linked! Self-care is the first step to loving and embracing ourselves. In order to properly practice self-care, we have to learn to listen to ourselves and be in tuned with our bodies. Did last week’s project tire you out? Was yesterday’s work more stressful than usual? After recognizing the challenges and obstacles that we have faced and overcame, reward ourselves with a break and understand that it is well deserved. Activities like walking around the neighborhood, taking bubble baths, eating a balanced diet, and sleeping well all fall under this category. Every day, we should take a moment out of our busy lives to recognize our accomplishments and be proud of ourselves. We should celebrate even the tiny wins and thank ourselves for a job-well-done!

Aside from caring for our physical well-being, our mental and emotional well-being is also extremely important, although they often get neglected. Here are some ways to practice self-care in our daily lives to fuel our self-love & self-gratitude:

1. Give ourselves daily affirmations

By speaking aloud positive affirmation to ourselves, we become more confident and optimistic in nature. As with Keen, we are rewiring our brains to think differently and are simultaneously removing negative thought from our minds. Here are a few examples to start with:

  • I am better than negative thoughts and actions.
  • I have the traits needed to be successful.
  • My self esteem and confidence rise with each passing day.
  • I am blessed with a supportive family and loyal friends.

And here are two videos with positive affirmations to bookmark: 

 

2. Listen to our emotions

We should let our hearts and bodies react in a situation. Don’t ignore or suppress the emotions. Simply observe them and acknowledge the emotions, whether positive or negative. By staying and acknowledging the emotions that we feel, we are understanding the reasons behind each expressed emotion and reconnecting our hearts and minds. Letting emotions take control sometimes can feel scary and daunting, but it can also be seen as a part of our bodies’ process to self-heal and love.

 

3. Learn to forgive ourselves

 

To begin, we need to acknowledge the situation and our actions. Accept the guilt that comes with our actions but don’t wallow in guilt. By forcing ourselves to suffer as a form of self-punishment, we are also forcing those around us to suffer as a result. We need to change our mindset and stop telling ourselves that we should do this or be that. Instead of focusing on the single wrong thing that we did, put everything in perspective and think of the right things that happened. We shouldn’t let one wrong action define us. Striving for perfectionism begins a vicious cycle of exhaustion and dissatisfaction. After understanding and reflecting on the situation, we need to decide on our plan of action, whether that is a change in our behaviors, an apology to others, or stop reliving memories of past faults. From there, we should recognize our progress from self-blame to making an effort to prevent future occurrences.  

 

4. Be comfortable with ourselves

For many of us, being comfortable in our own skin remains difficult regardless of how old we are. Social media has created unrealistic images of how we are suppose look, act, and be. We never feel satisfied with ourselves and constantly try to attain perfection. Nonetheless, the longest relationship that we will ever have is the relationship with ourselves; therefore, it should be a happy and healthy relationship, not a toxic one.

  • Be surrounded by positive people.
  • Don’t rely on external validation and judgment.
  • Nurture your talents and make time for hobbies.
  • Be appreciative of your skills, talents, and successes.
  • Stop being our own harshest critic by practicing positive self-affirmations.

Changing our mindsets is like running a marathon. It’s a long and enduring process, but with every little step we take, we are one step closer to the finish line. To start, try to find 10 minutes each day to incorporate little ways to practice self-care, whether it is repeating positive mantras to ourselves at the mirror or taking a stroll around the neighborhood. With self-care and self-awareness, we become closer to our inner selves and fill ourselves with love and gratitude.


About Keen by HabitAware

HabitAware makes Keen, a smart bracelet that helps manage nail biting, hair pulling, thumb sucking, and other subconscious behaviors. Customized gesture detection brings you into awareness and helps you develop healthier habits.

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